Life of an INFP; Drawbacks and Challenges

So, I’m pretty confident that people have a pretty positive reaction to INFPs after an initial interaction. We tend to be very empathetic and can typically see things from several points of view, which makes us great mediators and listeners. However, no one is perfect, and we have our drawbacks just like any other type. I’m going to go through some of the drawbacks I personally have as an INFP, and talk about how I deal with these challenges. If you have any input you would like to share, I always welcome people to sound off in the comments.

  • We can be way too idealistic.

So this can be a strength and a weakness all in one package. I think being an idealist can be a magical thing. We can see scenarios that benefit everyone and a lot of the time are able to make these scenarios a reality. However, when we have big dreams of an idealistic world, reality can be extremely draining. We also tend to put people we love on a pedestal and hold them to unrealistic expectations. This can set our loved ones, and ourselves, up for failure in the long term.

  •  We can become unmotivated towards tasks we are not passionate about.

Another drawback that INFPs can have is the inability to carry out tasks that we are simply not inspired to do. For me personally, this can include cleaning, organizing, making important phone calls, or doing schoolwork. INFPs need to find meaning and importance in the things that occupy their time, but this can result in the avoidance of important tasks. 

  •  We take criticism personally.

Even criticism that is intended to be constructive can make INFPs feel like they are being personally attacked. We tend to hold ourselves up to unrealistically high standards, and if we feel as though we are not living up to those standards, we perceive this as failure. Criticism can come across as conflict, which is something that INFPs will avoid like the plague. Conflict interferes with INFPs harmonious mindset, and cause them to mentally and emotionally shut down.

  •  We tend to feel lonely.

Although INFPs tend to be very warm and kind people, it is common for them to have a very small but close friend group. INFPs tend to have a very hard time trusting that people will understand them. We have a tendency to make ourselves outcasts, which can lead to feeling depressed and isolated from the people around us. Since we are an introverted personality type, it is very common for us to feel exhausted from prolonged social interaction. This can make engaging and making lasting connections with others very difficult for us.

  •  Our heads are always in the clouds.

Although this seems like a relatively harmless quality to have, it can actually be quite a drawback for INFPs. Having a vivid imagination is a great, but if we let our imagination run wild for too long, we can lose hours of reality at a time. This can be extremely disorienting and uncomfortable for us and can be very draining.

Thank you all for sticking around until the end. In my next post, I will be discussing the great qualities of INFPs. Don’t forget to like this article if you enjoyed it, and I will see you again soon!

Meyers Briggs Results; The Breakdown

So, in my last post, we discussed whether the Meyers Briggs test is legitimate, or if it’s bogus. The results were inconclusive, but if you’d like, you can take a look and decide for yourself here. Now that we have an idea of what this test is, and how it works, I’m going to dive a little deeper and tell you what these results actually mean. Keep in mind that this is how I interpret the information that I’ve researched, and I welcome people who may have differing opinions to sound off in the comments.

Alright, so the first letter can either be an E (Extrovert), or an I (Introvert). Extroversion is exactly what it sounds like. It’s drawing energy from external sources in social situations. People who are extroverted tend to feel stimulated from social interaction and tend to feel excited to engage. On the other hand, Introversion can cause someone to become drained from social interaction, and it is common for introverts to “recharge” by being alone. Introverts can still feel engaged and social; however, they can only sustain that engagement for a certain amount of time before becoming exhausted.

The second letter is either an N (Intuitive) or an S (Sensing). Intuitive people tend to go with their instincts or their “gut feeling.” People who are more intuitive also tend to be more independent in their thought patterns and find it harder to depend on evidence in their decision making. If something doesn’t “feel” right, intuitives have a harder time believing things even if there is evidence to back it up. Intuitives also tend to have more abstract and imaginative ideas. People who are sensing tend to be more grounded and concrete thinkers. They are very logical and base their ideas on solid evidence. Sensors also tend to trust what is certain and tend to reject ideas if there isn’t a practical way to execute. They tend to always be in the “here and now” and are typically very aware of their surroundings.

Next, are the letters T (Thinking) and F (Feeling). Thinkers tend to be very logical and weigh the pros and cons to every situation. They value being truthful and straightforward and tend to be realists. Thinkers can be very commonly mistaken for being cold or uncaring, but in reality, they value being fair and unbiased without letting their feelings cloud their judgment. Feelers tend to value harmony over everything else when making decisions. They try to look for tactful ways of communicating, however, this can hinder their ability to be transparent and truthful. People who are feeling are often referred to as being idealistic and crave happiness from all sides. They also tend to be very sensitive and can commonly have a hard time rationalizing their emotions.

The final letters are P (Perceiving) and J (Judging). These letters are an indicator of how you interact with the world around you. People who perceive tend to be more spontaneous and prefer keeping their options open. They grow bored with routines and have a tendency to start projects that never seem to get finished. Although they are carefree and are good at adapting to change, they can quite often be disorganized and lacking in structure. On the other hand, people who judge crave structure and prefer to have a plan for nearly everything in life. These people tend to be very responsible and follow through with projects once they start them. They can also accomplish tasks very quickly and efficiently. Their sequential way of thinking can make it difficult for Judgers to adapt to change, but it also enables them to have a methodical and organized approach to life.

I’d love to hear your interpretation of the letters in the comments below! Also, if you’d like some reading material on this subject, check out Type Talk: The 16 Personality Types That Determine How We Live, Love, and Work

The Meyers Briggs Test; Is this thing legit?

So most people are familiar with, or have at least heard of the Meyers Briggs personality test. But, if you’ve been living under a rock, I’ll give you the rundown of what it is and how it works. The Meyers Briggs test is an in depth test that asks you questions about how you feel about social situations, when and where you feel most comfortable, and how you react to different sets of circumstances. Your results are then compiled into a group of four letters that can give you some insight about who you are as a person. Its like magic right?

So what do these letters mean exactly? Well there are sixteen different ways that these letters can be grouped together, which means there are sixteen distinct personality types. The groups of letters can consist of:

  • E (Extrovert) or I (Introvert)
  • S (Sensing) or N (Intuitive)
  • T (Thinking) or F (Feeling)
  • J (Judging) or P (Percieving)

What each of these mean specifically is probably something I should make a separate post about, because there is A LOT of information.

But anyways, is it legit? Are there really only sixteen personalities that you can be grouped into? The short answer is, I don’t really know. To an extent, I believe this test can give you a lot of insight into who you really are as a person, and why you react to certain stressers in your life. It can be a wonderful tool as a reference to better yourself and find a healthier balance within yourself. With that being said, the results can have an unhealthy impact as well. For people who are having a bit of an identity crisis, I would tread with caution. Although the results of this test can bring great insight and shine a light on who you are, it can also lead to a bit of obsession and stunted growth. To some people, knowing why you react to things in a certain way can cause you to no longer hold yourself accountable for mistakes because its easier to blame it on your personality type. My conclusion is, the test can go either way. The ball is in your court to decide if the test will help or harm you. Take it with a grain of salt, learn a little about yourself, and don’t take the results too seriously if you don’t like your outcome. In the grand scheme of things, you are the master of who you are.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject, so leave a comment down below if you’d like!